A few years back, there was a short-lived television show called “The Marriage Ref”. Produced by Jerry Seinfeld and hosted by Tom Pappa, it featured a panel of celebs (mostly comedians) who would listen to couples’ ongoing gripes and choose which partner was right. Then there would be a winner for the “most right” of the evening and that couple would win a trip. It didn’t last long, but I really liked the show.
My question is, why isn’t’ this a real thing? I mean, take away the t.v. cameras and maybe the panel of celebs (that’s a maybe), and this could be not only a very lucrative career, but also a very important service to married people everywhere!
Now, before you all go getting started on “marriage isn’t about who’s right or wrong…blah blah blah” save it. OF COURSE it matters who’s right! Marriage is about surviving the day and not killing one another. Period. If you’re lucky, in the end you’re old and sitting in rocking chairs, looking at one another somewhat affectionately and without either of you having major dents in the head or visible scars.
Just think of the possibilities if this was a real person, without all the commitment of marriage counseling or therapy. I mean, pfffft…they never tell you who’s right anyway. They just make you examine your “feelings”. I HATE FEELINGS! I WANT TO BE RIGHT!
Can’t stand beans in the chili? MARRIAGE REF!
Sick of the snoring/teeth grinding/ sleeping with(out) the tv on? MARRIAGE REF!!
Want to start a nuclear war every time you find socks left on the couch? M-A-R-R-I-A-G-E–R-E-F!!!!
Because, seriously….without someone impartial to tell you that you’re wrong and that you’re lucky the love of your life hasn’t taken a cast iron skillet to your head in your sleep yet…HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW!?
Right now, I can see my married friends nodding and thinking “You know what, Robin…YOU’RE RIGHT!” And that’s exactly why there was never a show called “The Friendship Ref”. Because with your friends, you’re always right. And if not…there’s always wine.